Tuesday 17 December 2013



Champagne Wishes: Tis the Season




In keeping with the spirit of this festive season and contemplating what the new year may have in store, I've decided to make a little wish list for what I can already sense will be a fabulous 2014. Here are my wishes for the future:

That I visit at least two new destinations  in this fascinating world of ours, over the course of the year. I've got to keep chipping away at my ever-lengthening bucket list. 2014 is as good a year as any. Travel, travel, travel.

That I learn a new language so I can speak to the charming locals of the destinations I select to travel to. Perhaps I will begin with brushing up on my French. The people of Paris and the south of France would certainly get a treat if they had to converse with me while I stutter away in my current sub par French speak.

That I will stop stressing over the small insignificant details of my day-to-day and instead celebrate  the little victories.

That I will attempt one thing each day that causes a mild rush of fear at the thought of. Fear and excitement will become synonymous in my world, because it is due to melding the two that the best adventures happen.

That I reach out to those I may have lost touch with and invest more in my friendships. I often become so caught up in the routines of life that I sometimes neglect to leave time in my schedule for dear friends of my past and even those of my present. Connecting, reflecting as well as sharing stories and laughs make the best new memories.



That I show my family, especially my parents, just how much they mean to me, daily. It's difficult to truly demonstrate and communicate the impact their unconditional love, support and guidance has had on me and how appreciative I am of their encouragement and the wise words that are always formulated so perfectly anytime I need a bit of advice.

That as I grow one year older, I will grow one year younger at heart. I want to roll down more hills and frolic aimlessly in more fields (that one's for you Sara) without giving a damn as to who witnesses. Perhaps a re-visitation to the activity of cow tipping is on the horizon.

 That I truly begin connecting my past failures and mistakes to my current successes and achievements, whether in regards to my career, relationships or health. It is by way of the slips and scars that the summit is reached.

Please follow the links below to learn more about the Because I am a Girl cause initiated by Plan International:
http://becauseiamagirl.ca/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_AQA1xb4Is&feature=youtu.be
http://plan-international.org/

Follow me on twitter: Jessica Ashley @City_Rhapsody
Happy reading!

Jessica Ashley

Wednesday 11 December 2013



Fashion Speaks

  Fashion is artwork that we wear, day in and day out; the art that reveals and speaks volumes  about who we are without the need of uttering so much as a word.  This is not to say that fashion is the most pertinent or critical method to communicate who we are as people, but it is the most apparent layer of our  being , so therefore has the most impact, initially. Surely we are about more than the clothes we  select to put on our backs,  but isn't it true that an individual’s choice of clothing, hair style, shoe choice, and even accessory choice all impact our initial perception of him or her? And even more so, doesn't it truly allow us to determine whether there is a commonality or a uniqueness that intrigues us to learn more? Fashion is a treat for the senses; a visual melody of hues, fabrics, silhouettes and textures.



A flowing, flowered print maxi dress softly communicates a comfortable elegance, tastefulness and grace. A sequined black mini, paired with a blazer and sling-backed pumps communicate business-ready with a fun and flirty flare. A comfortable pair of faded and distressed denim, matched with an over-sized blouse or sweater communicates comfortable, casual and ready for coffee talks. What we select on a daily basis to clothe ourselves in, whether we intend it or not, transmits a certain message to those around us.

It is for this reason that Portia Delaney, the main protagonist and narrator of my upcoming novel, despises her work attire. A medical office administrator is not left with much choice when it comes to daily fashion selections. It boils down to one very boring and abrasive word, "scrubs".

Alright, outfit, yes outfit. Well this is the most inexcusable tidbit of all. I’m here selecting an outfit for a first day at a job where my only selection can be from an assortment of various coloured scrubs, when I want to be making a selection between Gucci and Versace.  Lavender it is, I suppose. With that disgruntled decision made, I reach for my terribly ordinary lavender scrubs, quickly pull them on, jet into the bathroom and whisk a brush through my hair while applying a pinch of foundation and bronzer, because I’m too pale to even stand it. I add a bit of tinted lip gloss and I’m set to go. Yes to go to my, err….ummm… bore of a career. Pay increase or not, just the thought of getting compensated to give up my dreams on a daily basis makes my stomach turn, and anxiety take over. 

Portia initially allows herself to suffer from fashion workday/weekender syndrome. Her career choice limits her ability to express herself by way of her true sense of fashion and she’s left feeling drab and masked throughout the entirety of the work week until Friday evening when she truly feels inspired to dig out her designer duds.



As she becomes more committed to attaining her dream career as a fashion designer and stylist to the stars her drive opens doors for her career and the doors of her wardrobe. All the showstopper looks collected over the years are finally strutted on the regular, and the true outer Portia is able to make a full appearance as desired.

“Portia Delaney, you look like you should be on the cover of one of those big time fashion mags you’ll soon be styling for!” She remains completely fixated on me and proceeds to accost me by running her hands all over the crinoline and layers of my couture masterpiece. I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and admit that I would want to have my way with me too. The emerald green fit and flare gown is so flattering to my bust and waistline with the scooped neckline and the corset style bodice, I look like I’m straight out of Vanity Fair, the William Makepace Thackery novel, not the magazine. My hair is now piled in ringlets on my head and bedazzled with pearls. My exposed neck is adorned with a rose gold chain, elegant yet understated with a tiny pearl encased diamond dangling from its end. I’ve finished this ancient-made-new again look off with my BCGB stilettos and an ear to ear fuchsia pink smile


The pieces and products in the everyday life of the superlative and creatively freed Portia Delaney include the following:
  Fierce footwear
Whether dazzling crowds with her designs or finding herself as the one being dazzled  by her handsome companion, Portia’s footwear is always first rate and usually increases her 5 ft 6 inch frame by 3-4 inches.


  Enormous shades
Let’s face it ladies, when we can get away with it, going au natural in the eye makeup department is always a possibility when you've got some large stylish frames to throw over your recently awakened and puffed up eyes.



Marc Jacobs tote
In the early chapters of the novel, it is this signature piece that allows Portia to still feel some connection to her fashionista tendencies during the gruelling 9-5 days at her scrub- overrun office.


A little black dress (or 50)
I recently had the pleasure of attending the opening of the Kate Spade store in the neighbourhood of Yorkville. The event was hosted by ELLE Canada and in the words spoken so eloquently at the opening by their Editor in chief, Ms. Noreen Flanagan, “Every girl should have at least 50 little black dresses in her closet”. 



 A comfy pair of loose fitting boyfriend style jeans
For those days of jet setting, meeting up for chats with the girls or having a quiet evening in, the boyfriend denim is a must.



 Vibrant shades of lip glosses and lipsticks
Red, fuchsia , maroon, violet, frosted pink, whatever the colour, a well-defined lip is never a bad idea.



Beyond Portia and the world of trends, style and fads, fashion promotes the opportunity to allow true individuality to shine if we stay true to ourselves.


Please follow the links below to learn more about the Because I am a Girl cause initiated by Plan International:
http://becauseiamagirl.ca/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_AQA1xb4Is&feature=youtu.be
http://plan-international.org/

Follow me on twitter: Jessica Ashley @City_Rhapsody
Happy reading!

Jessica Ashley


Friday 6 December 2013



A Tribute to Toronto (T.O., T.Ro, T.dot, Tarana etc.)


I have selected the city of Toronto to be the home base for the main character of my novel for a variety of reasons.  I am coming to the end of my novel writing process. I've completed 22 chapters of the intended 24 and an eagerness and excitement is overtaking me at the thought of beginning my next writing project; this being, starting up an online lifestyle magazine.  The magazine will include articles and editorials on everything from health, wellness and fashion to the newest hot spots and upcoming events. This new venture will allow me to share, on the regular, all of the reasons I already love Toronto while also discovering new reasons to love this remarkable city! The magazine will be a tribute to all that the G.T.A has to offer and will focus on  exposing its beauty and appeal by way of real people and businesses that make it what it is, fabulous!



Mayor Rob Ford aside, the metropolis that is the T.dot is a melting pot of  talented, hard working dreamers and revelers who seek to make this city the best that it can be. Recently voted "Most Youthful City in the World" by the Youthfulcities initiative, Toronto provides just the environment for a young entrepreneur, student, lawyer, teacher, actor, musician etc. to thrive in his or her career or studies, whilst being able to maintain a balanced enjoyment filled lifestyle due to the infinite list of things to do, places to go and people to see.

Ten reasons I heart Toronto:

10. It's warmer in the winter than the city I grew up in is!

 Much love, Ottawa. You are always in my heart.

Winter surfing at The Beaches in Toronto!
9. The shopping.

 Helloooo Yorkville, Eaton's Centre, Yorkdale and Queen West!



8. The entirely entertaining public transit journeys. 

I will never forget being serenaded by a woman who truly believed she was Whitney Houston while riding on the Bloor/Danforth line. Her rendition of "The Greatest Love of All" brought a tear to my eye and had the entire subway car singing along with her.



7. The markets including the ever so popular and historical St. Lawrence Market.

Aside from the more permanent locations, there is also no shortage of pop up markets offering the best of country goodness in the heart of the city.


6. The historical landmarks, museums and galleries.

The Distillery District is one of my faves, because who doesn't want to enjoy a delicious beer in a historical setting and meander along cobblestone streets only to find delicious pastries, coffees and fascinating art work? I'll be heading to the District's Christmas Market this weekend. Head on down!



5. The diverse communities and neighbourhoods.

 One I find myself visiting frequently in the summer is The Beaches. Can't get away to the Caribbean like you had planned? Head to the Beaches to catch those rays then burn off the triple scoop double chocolate ice cream cone you consumed by strolling or jogging down the boardwalk a few miles.



4. The nightlife and entertainment.

King West is perpetually reinventing itself and the nightlife is always stellar. Can't get in to one event or club? You're sure to find a brand new venue, right around the corner, offering free admission and an atmosphere that will make you forget you ever intended to go elsewhere.



3. The restaurants.

If you're a foodie, Toronto is the city to be in. New top rate restaurants are constantly opening their doors to the masses in this city and no matter what you're in the mood for, be it Chinese, Moroccan or Greek etc., you're sure to find it within a 5 kilometre vicinity of wherever you are.




2. The festivals and events.

 Is there ever a weekend in Toronto that there isn't a festival of some sort happening? I pose this question in hopes of an answer. Please do tell!



1. The people.

This multicultural metropolis is home to some of the most charismatic and incredible people.  By saying this, I'm not simply referring to the iconic figures residing in this city, but those remarkable every day individuals. Each day, for every negative interaction I may witness between two people, I witness twice as many kind gestures and good deeds. Whether these involve a teenager giving up his seat for an elderly woman on the subway, or a young woman helping a blind man to cross the street, or a simple smile and a friendly hello in my condo building's elevator from a complete stranger, kindness and consideration are alive and well in the T.





It's no wonder I selected Toronto as the main city of residence for the young, yet bitter at heart, struggling enthusiast, Portia Delaney.



Much love T.O.


Please follow the links below to learn more about the Because I am a Girl cause initiated by Plan International:
http://becauseiamagirl.ca/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_AQA1xb4Is&feature=youtu.be
http://plan-international.org/

Follow me on twitter: Jessica Ashley @City_Rhapsody
Happy reading!

Jessica Ashley


Wednesday 4 December 2013



Define "Beauty"

What is beauty? What is it that makes something or someone beautiful? What makes one photograph or painting or poem or person or pattern more beautiful than an array of others? The definition of beauty is "a combination of qualities, such as shape, colour, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight." I am however overly aware that the colours and shapes which please my own critical eye are vastly different from those pleasing to my friends and acquaintances. An outfit combination involving a flowered pant and a striped top, for example, would never find its way onto this bod, yet I know a select few who would pair the two and work them fiercely, looking edgy and ultra-hip while doing so. I prefer solids and muted prints. Call me boring?



In writing is it not the same? The well-known poem by Robert Frost, and my personal favourite of all, Nothing Gold can Stay, is a beautiful tribute to the cycle of life and change that certainly is inevitable,

Nature's first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf's a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf,
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day
Nothing gold can stay.

-Robert Frost

I'm sure many would interpret this poem as being far from beautiful if they were focusing more on the unwanted change and the negativity that can be brought about by it. Or perhaps others may find it too simplistic and undeserving of the recognition gained by a Wordsworth or a Yeats. Is the answer not then truly in the individual perception, attitude and preference?



As a woman I am ever aware of glances and advances made by male passers-by or those in given situations. Just the same, however, I am all too aware of those who don’t give a second look. What is it that warrants a lingering gaze from one and a completely disinterested, steadfast breeze-pass by another? Well personal preference of course! 

So let's deduce and conclude, shall we? A true definition of the term "beautiful" is only accurate if somewhere in it the words "personal preference" are inserted. Without these, the term's definition is inaccurate. Obvious? Of course the very fact that beauty is in the eye of the beholder is an obvious and well known fact.



Why is it then that today we are so concerned with what the media deems as beautiful?  Really, by hanging on the words of the select few who determine what’s hot and what’s not, we’re allowing our own perception of what’s beautiful to be made impertinent to our own lives, Caving to the pressures of the media machine to look a certain way and weigh a certain amount and have a certain hair style and read a certain trilogy and try a certain diet and cleanse a certain way and buy a certain brand and drive a certain car is neglecting what is truly beautiful  about humanity. We are each unique with preferences, voices, shapes and sizes of our own. THAT is beautiful.







 Beauty is a prayer, a song, an exchanged smile, a love gained, a new life, a good deed, a hug, a lingering kiss, a poem, a journey ....

The very issue of feeling pressured to conform and to completely disregard her own judgment is one that haunts Portia throughout the entirety of the novel's action. It is one which undoubtedly plagues all women to some degree or another. Is conforming to attain a goal truly considered success when the end is achieved? 


Please follow the links below to learn more about the Because I am a Girl cause initiated by Plan International:
http://becauseiamagirl.ca/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_AQA1xb4Is&feature=youtu.be
http://plan-international.org/

Follow me on twitter: Jessica Ashley @City_Rhapsody
Happy reading!

Jessica Ashley